The modern world of dating gets a bad rep for being impersonal, unsustainable and too reliant on the digital world. Our found Benno Spencer disagrees, and predicts a dating app revolution that will transport us back to reality…
Breaking news, people: the future of dating is bright.
We used to meet ‘the one’ through mutual friends, or by lurking in bars and clubs for a long enough period to pluck up the courage say hello to someone, get talking, and impress them enough to leave with their phone number.
Today, however, at the swipe of a smartphone screen, you can tap into the tens of millions of dating app users who are online and looking for love, making the odds of finding the right person unquestionably higher than loitering down your local.
But we’re now so spoilt for choice that going on dating apps makes us feel like we’re drowning in a sea of potential soulmates who we haven’t even met. We’ve got fifty conversations on the go at any one time, and we can’t remember if Ted or Josh is the champion water-skier, or whether we’re due to meet Rosie (the funny blonde) tonight, and Sofia (the serious brunette with piercings) tomorrow, or the other way round.
This is why we’re about to experience the second wave of the dating revolution. The sea of endless (and more often than not, useless) options is about to turn into a river of free-flowing opportunity. Smaller? Yes. More effective? Definitely.
The future of dating will mean more dates, but fewer initial matches, because we will have already filtered the people we see online by communicating our preferences. Apps like type are already developing this ‘second wave’ of dating app culture, whereby we’re allowed (and encouraged) to be picky from the get-go, instead of trying to decide who our best match would be further down the line.
Because just as you can’t be friends with everyone you meet in real life, you can’t possibly have a meaningful introduction with every single person you match with online. With fewer but more meaningful matches, you can spend more time working out if a specific someone will end up being that special person.